Love – the ultimate weapon

For hatred does not cease by hatred at any time:

hatred ceases by love - this is an old rule.

           Dhammapada

The countenance is the portrait of the soul,

and the eyes mark its intentions.

          Marcus Tullius Cicero

The fool doth think he is wise,

but the wise man knows himself to be a fool.

          William Shakespeare

To Lisa’s mind, the rarity of true unconditional love ushered in its own set of problems.

Too often she had seen love used as a weapon with devastating results. Love with conditions usually has conditions attached which are nearly impossible to achieve thereby acting as a long term trap for the sufferer, and a long term game of power for the controller.

Partners in relationships where one wields the whip of love suffer endlessly of never being good enough, never doing enough or never doing things right.

The sufferers bend over backwards to try to please but it never seems enough. They sink deeper into lack of self worth and disempowerment until they either go insane or just ‘snap’ one day and lash out or leave (if they can). However they will always feel a huge guilt of never being good enough.

The worth of the sufferer is severely compromised and can take years if ever to recover from the effects. Strangely, a way to heal the damage is by another type of love – Unconditional.

But to Lisa, it was the children hurt most through this type of controlling and conditional love. The scars manifested in myriad ways which affected their relationships and behaviour well into the future. Lisa had actually tried to shine a little light into the whys and hows of this and many people agreed with her yet none could face the ‘demon’ and rise above it. None could be strong enough to overcome the effects of bad love.

The long road to regain self love and self worth is a hard trek indeed and given the mindset of societies in general, the need to regain these two treasures gets more urgent each day.

And Lisa saw that the mind games, the disempowering was not restricted to governments or corporations. It was everywhere. In every household, in every relationship, in every school and in every business.